by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

In some ways, my grief experiences — the loss of my parents in my 20’s, which is earlier than most people — have hardened me to the possibility of losing loved ones.

Yet, at the same time, I feel that grief experiences build on each other, and almost multiply the hurt that one goes through.

For example, after my mum passed on, I would miss her, and feel terribly sad from time to time. But that was it, I missed her. One person.

Since dad passed away, however, I often find myself being sucked into a downward spiral of grief. All I need is to think of one of them, feel a little sad, and suddenly, I’m missing both of them, and perhaps feeling twice as sad.

Throw in a grandma and an aunt, who also left during the same period, and it’s like, hey, I’m thinking about a whole load of people.

I wonder if others feel the same way too.

And, you know, one thing is for sure — unless I am the next one to go, there will be more loved ones being added to the mix.

Will the grief become increasingly difficult to bear over time? I’m not sure. I would think I will learn to cope with it, when the time comes.

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