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How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term

Turn Your Focus Away From The Departed

From time to time, you may get swept away by the emotions that come with missing your departed loved ones.

This often comes out of nowhere, set off by the smallest trigger. Read more »

Grief, Suddenly

Eleven years ago, 6 October was also a Saturday.

It was a sunny morning, I remember. Read more »

They Live In You, Not In A House, Nor In Stuff

This is something which I was in the process of writing almost a year ago, but I somehow got distracted. Am now revisiting this topic here.

In August 2010 last year, I moved into a new house. It wouldn’t exactly be a big deal – after all, people move all the time – except that I had lived in the same house all thirty plus years of my life. All the years I spent with my late parents, plus most of the best memories with them, took place in that house and its surrounding neighbourhood. Letting go of that wasn’t exactly an easy thing to do. Read more »

Reaching New Life Equilibriums

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

I realize it’s been a good 9 months or so since I last posted anything on this website.

To me, that can mean one thing – I have very much moved on in my life, and grief for lost loved ones no longer subsumes my everyday existence like it used to. Read more »

9 Year Death Anniversary of Mother

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

It’s been 9 years.

So many things have happened in those 9 years. Life has changed so much. In fact, the world has changed so much. Read more »

Dealing With the Belongings of a Departed Loved One – To Discard or To Keep

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

When a person passes on, it is inevitable that he or she leaves behind many “things” and belongings. This is even more so today, when everyone seems to have more “stuff” than in the simpler past.

And, generally, the bigger the house, and the longer a person has lived there without conscious effort to de-clutter, the more things he or she would accumulate over the years. Read more »

Joining The Dots

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Losing a loved one is a very trying experience.

At that point, almost everything seems doom and gloom, and life can be pretty empty. Read more »

Coping With The Fear of More Loss

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Perhaps, when we were very young, we innocently believed that life was all smooth and rosy and that all the people dear to us would be around with us for a long, long time, if not forever. Read more »

Saying Those Last Words And The Final Goodbye

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

The loss of both my parents, although both to illness, were very different experiences. Read more »

The Importance of Being Weak

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

This society of ours values strength. The fittest survive, the best win, the strongest top the chart, and what not. Read more »