Learning to embrace grief and draw new strength and meaning from it.

Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle

Have You Ever Been Part of a Funeral?

Have you ever attended a funeral? I’m quite sure you have.

But have you ever participated in one? Read more »

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Hanging on to the Past: Mobile Number

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com 

When my mum passed on, my dad took over the use of her mobile phone and number.

Almost exactly four years later, my dad passed on, too. Read more »

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One More Christmas With Them

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

It is the festive season again. Sometimes, I can barely believe how each year just zips by before us.

It is a pretty well-known fact that such seasons, where people spend time with loved ones, evoke strong, painful memories for those who have lost loved ones, and strong feelings of loneliness for who do not have loved ones. Read more »

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Coping With The Fear of More Loss

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Perhaps, when we were very young, we innocently believed that life was all smooth and rosy and that all the people dear to us would be around with us for a long, long time, if not forever. Read more »

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The Importance of Being Weak

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

This society of ours values strength. The fittest survive, the best win, the strongest top the chart, and what not. Read more »

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Keeping in Touching Distance of Others

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

As we mourn the loss of our loved ones, it is often tempting to retreat into a shell, to build a barrier and shut ourselves away from the love of others, and any interaction with them. Read more »

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The Period After the Immediate Period

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

During the immediate period after the passing of a loved one, we are usually surrounded with care, concern and the support of friends, relatives and other associates. They ask how we are, they go easy on us, they console us, and they volunteer whatever help is needed. Read more »

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Putting the Unhappiness Away

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Certain materials are usually strongly associated with  the passing of our loved ones. Read more »

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The Unique Experience of Grief

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Have you, in your grieving journey, had someone tell you that you are over-reacting, or that you shouldn’t or needn’t be feeling the way you are, or that you should have gotten over it or moved on by now? Read more »

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Tears help; let them flow

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Over the course of the past few years, I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve teared or really cried due to grief. For me, the tears come in two main forms - those that come after the recollectation of certain events or words, and those that arrive in the midst of dreams. For the latter, it’s often a blur to me as to whether I actually did awake in the middle of the night and cried, or whether I had simply cried in my dreams. Read more »

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