Learning to embrace grief and draw new strength and meaning from it.

Grief Cycle of Recurrent Challenges

Hanging on to the Past: Mobile Number

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com 

When my mum passed on, my dad took over the use of her mobile phone and number.

Almost exactly four years later, my dad passed on, too. Read more »

Popularity: 81% [?]

One More Christmas With Them

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

It is the festive season again. Sometimes, I can barely believe how each year just zips by before us.

It is a pretty well-known fact that such seasons, where people spend time with loved ones, evoke strong, painful memories for those who have lost loved ones, and strong feelings of loneliness for who do not have loved ones. Read more »

Popularity: 65% [?]

Coping With The Fear of More Loss

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Perhaps, when we were very young, we innocently believed that life was all smooth and rosy and that all the people dear to us would be around with us for a long, long time, if not forever. Read more »

Popularity: 100% [?]

Hurt From The Loss of Many Loved Ones

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

In some ways, my grief experiences — the loss of my parents in my 20’s, which is earlier than most people — have hardened me to the possibility of losing loved ones. Read more »

Popularity: 85% [?]

Saying Those Last Words And The Final Goodbye

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

The loss of both my parents, although both to illness, were very different experiences. Read more »

Popularity: 89% [?]

Putting the Unhappiness Away

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Certain materials are usually strongly associated with  the passing of our loved ones. Read more »

Popularity: 62% [?]

Those Familiar Faces

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

Every now and then, I see or meet someone who reminds me of my late father or late mother. It could be how they look, the way they speak, their personality, or just the way they move. Read more »

Popularity: 37% [?]

Those Special Dates

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

There are a few dates every year which the gaping hole in my life left by my departed parents become more apparent than ever. Read more »

Popularity: 30% [?]

Guilt, the Undesirable Emotion

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com 

When a loved one leaves, invariably, there would be discussions which have not been completed, conflicts which have not been resolved, quarrels which have not been settled, things which have not been done, forgiveness which has not been given, love which has not been shared, and words which have not been said. Read more »

Popularity: 38% [?]

Memorable Songs

by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

There are a few songs which always bring a tear to my eyes. Some because my parents liked them. Some because I once heard my parents sing them. Some because we sang them together. Some just because their lyrics feel so applicable, or remind me of something. Read more »

Popularity: 22% [?]