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    Welcome to Living-With-Grief.com.

    Hi everyone. I'm Reuben. Living-With-Grief.com is inspired by the passing of my mum and dad through illness, in 2001 and 2005 respectively. I was 22 and 26 then. It hasn't been easy, and it has often been a painful experience.

    Why "living with" grief, as supposed to "overcoming" grief or "recovering from" grief? Because, even though I have moved on in my life, adapted to a new routine and embarked on new adventures, the grief has never fully left me - it comes and goes all the time. In fact, I suspect it might never do so. Sometimes, each passing of a loved one even seems to build on the other, deepening the hurt. The healing journey is long and laden with obstacles - it's been years, but I know I have not yet bade them farewell. And, I'm under no illusions - there will be more of such losses to come in the future.

    However, amidst the sorrow and tears, I have discovered nuggets of opportunity for peace and growth. I don't want to overcome my grief, and most certainly don't want to deny it. I want to learn to embrace it. The grieving journey has been a powerful experience, giving me new insights and perspectives on life. Life has never been the same again, nor will I ever be the same again. Through Living-With-Grief.com, I hope to share this journey with you, a journey of embracing our grief and drawing new strength and meaning from it. It can be done.

     

    See the most recent articles below:

  • Tears help; let them flow
  • Grieving and healing don’t happen overnight
  • Why Me?
  • When one door closes, another opens

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    Welcome to Living-With-Grief.com.

    Hi everyone. I'm Reuben. Living-With-Grief.com is inspired by the passing of my mum and dad through illness, in 2001 and 2005 respectively. I was 22 and 26 then. It hasn't been easy, and it has often been a painful experience.

    Why "living with" grief, as supposed to "overcoming" grief or "recovering from" grief? Because, even though I have moved on in my life, adapted to a new routine and embarked on new adventures, the grief has never fully left me - it comes and goes all the time. In fact, I suspect it might never do so. Sometimes, each passing of a loved one even seems to build on the other, deepening the hurt. The healing journey is long and laden with obstacles - it's been years, but I know I have not yet bade them farewell. And, I'm under no illusions - there will be more of such losses to come in the future.

    However, amidst the sorrow and tears, I have discovered nuggets of opportunity for peace and growth. I don't want to overcome my grief, and most certainly don't want to deny it. I want to learn to embrace it. The grieving journey has been a powerful experience, giving me new insights and perspectives on life. Life has never been the same again, nor will I ever be the same again. Through Living-With-Grief.com, I hope to share this journey with you, a journey of embracing our grief and drawing new strength and meaning from it. It can be done.

     

    See the most recent articles below:

    Tears help; let them flow

    by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

    Over the course of the past few years, I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve teared or really cried due to grief. For me, the tears come in two main forms - those that come after the recollectation of certain events or words, and those that arrive in the midst of dreams. For the latter, it’s often a blur to me as to whether I actually did awake in the middle of the night and cried, or whether I had simply cried in my dreams. Read more »

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    Posted: February 3rd, 2008 under General Articles.
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    Grieving and healing don’t happen overnight

    by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com 

    Many times along the grieving journey, I had found myself making intellectual and emotional breakthroughs; either gaining new insights, feeling more at peace, or both. It felt good to have a sense of ‘progress’. Read more »

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    Posted: February 1st, 2008 under General Articles.
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    Why Me?

    by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com 

    I was the first among those close to me to lose a parent. And then I lost the other. Each time, I recall having asked “why me?” It’s a common question, which I’m sure many of us do ask when we encounter setbacks in life. I was in shock, and I was 100% certain I would have treasured my parents better if I had seen this happen to someone else first. Read more »

    Popularity: 81% [?]

    Posted: January 9th, 2008 under General Articles.
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    When one door closes, another opens

    by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com

    I am a firm believer that there is something good in everything bad that happens, and vice versa. In other words, there are positive and negative elements to every single life experience, regardless of how good or bad they seem at first glance. There are also “good” and “bad” consequences from every event. Often, these elements and consequences may be invisible to us, or at least not easily spotted. Generally, it’s how we choose to look at them. Read more »

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    Posted: January 1st, 2008 under General Articles.
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