Hi everyone. I'm Reuben. Living-With-Grief.com is inspired by the passing of my mum and dad through illness, in 2001 and 2005 respectively. I was 22 and 26 then. It hasn't been easy, and it has often been a painful experience.
Why "living with" grief, as supposed to "overcoming" grief or "recovering from" grief? Because, even though I have moved on in my life, adapted to a new routine and embarked on new adventures, the grief has never fully left me - it comes and goes all the time. In fact, I suspect it might never do so. Sometimes, each passing of a loved one even seems to build on the other, deepening the hurt. The healing journey is long and laden with obstacles - it's been years, but I know I have not yet bade them farewell. And, I'm under no illusions - there will be more of such losses to come in the future.
However, amidst the sorrow and tears, I have discovered nuggets of opportunity for peace and growth. I don't want to overcome my grief, and most certainly don't want to deny it. I want to learn to embrace it. The grieving journey has been a powerful experience, giving me new insights and perspectives on life. Life has never been the same again, nor will I ever be the same again. Through Living-With-Grief.com, I hope to share this journey with you, a journey of embracing our grief and drawing new strength and meaning from it. It can be done.
See the most recent articles below:
Hi everyone. I'm Reuben. Living-With-Grief.com is inspired by the passing of my mum and dad through illness, in 2001 and 2005 respectively. I was 22 and 26 then. It hasn't been easy, and it has often been a painful experience.
Why "living with" grief, as supposed to "overcoming" grief or "recovering from" grief? Because, even though I have moved on in my life, adapted to a new routine and embarked on new adventures, the grief has never fully left me - it comes and goes all the time. In fact, I suspect it might never do so. Sometimes, each passing of a loved one even seems to build on the other, deepening the hurt. The healing journey is long and laden with obstacles - it's been years, but I know I have not yet bade them farewell. And, I'm under no illusions - there will be more of such losses to come in the future.
However, amidst the sorrow and tears, I have discovered nuggets of opportunity for peace and growth. I don't want to overcome my grief, and most certainly don't want to deny it. I want to learn to embrace it. The grieving journey has been a powerful experience, giving me new insights and perspectives on life. Life has never been the same again, nor will I ever be the same again. Through Living-With-Grief.com, I hope to share this journey with you, a journey of embracing our grief and drawing new strength and meaning from it. It can be done.
See the most recent articles below:
Have you ever attended a funeral? I’m quite sure you have.
But have you ever participated in one? Read more »
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Posted: July 21st, 2009 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle, Positive Side of Grief.
Comments: 1
by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
When my mum passed on, my dad took over the use of her mobile phone and number.
Almost exactly four years later, my dad passed on, too. Read more »
Popularity: 81% [?]
Posted: January 9th, 2009 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Cycle of Recurrent Challenges, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle, Symptoms of Grief.
Comments: 3
by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
It is the festive season again. Sometimes, I can barely believe how each year just zips by before us.
It is a pretty well-known fact that such seasons, where people spend time with loved ones, evoke strong, painful memories for those who have lost loved ones, and strong feelings of loneliness for who do not have loved ones. Read more »
Popularity: 65% [?]
Posted: December 23rd, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Cycle of Recurrent Challenges, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle.
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by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
Losing a loved one is a very trying experience.
At that point, almost everything seems doom and gloom, and life can be pretty empty. Read more »
Popularity: 92% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term, How to Deal with Grief in the Short Term, Lessons from Grief.
Comments: 2
by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
Perhaps, when we were very young, we innocently believed that life was all smooth and rosy and that all the people dear to us would be around with us for a long, long time, if not forever. Read more »
Popularity: 100% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Cycle of Recurrent Challenges, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle, How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term, Lessons from Grief, Symptoms of Grief.
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by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
In some ways, my grief experiences — the loss of my parents in my 20’s, which is earlier than most people — have hardened me to the possibility of losing loved ones. Read more »
Popularity: 85% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Cycle of Recurrent Challenges, Symptoms of Grief.
Comments: 5
by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
The loss of both my parents, although both to illness, were very different experiences. Read more »
Popularity: 89% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Cycle of Recurrent Challenges, How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term, How to Deal with Grief in the Short Term.
Comments: 5
by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
This society of ours values strength. The fittest survive, the best win, the strongest top the chart, and what not. Read more »
Popularity: 95% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle, How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term, How to Deal with Grief in the Short Term, Symptoms of Grief.
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by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
As we mourn the loss of our loved ones, it is often tempting to retreat into a shell, to build a barrier and shut ourselves away from the love of others, and any interaction with them. Read more »
Popularity: 82% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle, How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term, How to Deal with Grief in the Short Term.
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by Reuben M. Chow, Living-With-Grief.com
During the immediate period after the passing of a loved one, we are usually surrounded with care, concern and the support of friends, relatives and other associates. They ask how we are, they go easy on us, they console us, and they volunteer whatever help is needed. Read more »
Popularity: 82% [?]
Posted: August 27th, 2008 under All Articles on Grief, Emotions of Grief, Grief Stages or the Grief Cycle, How to Cope with Grief in the Long Term, How to Deal with Grief in the Short Term.
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